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This is my story of my marriage to an abuser. This post was written in real time, when my divorce was finalized in December 2014.  This post reflects my thoughts at the time, as I reflected on relationships and what I wanted. Warning: descriptions of violence and abuse may be triggering. For Part 1: Back […]

This is my story of my marriage to an abuser. This post was written in real time, when my estranged husband gave me an ultimatum back. In an email, in October 2013, he told me he wasn’t going to change, and to take it or leave it. Obviously, I had to leave it. This post

This is my story of my marriage to an abuser. This post was written in real time, shortly after my ex husband moved out, in August of 2013. It reflects my thoughts at the time, as a picture of what it feels like to pick up the pieces after separation. Warning: descriptions of violence and

This is my story of my marriage to an abuser.  It was a fight to end the abuse. Warning: descriptions of violence and abuse may be triggering. For Part 1: Back to the Beginning For Part 2: For Better or For Worse For Part 3: Moving and More For Part 4: Going Downhill For Part

This is my story of my marriage to an abuser. During my pregnancy with my 4th, we attempted a reconciliation. But my pregnancy with my 5th child was the beginning of the end. Warning: descriptions of violence and abuse may be triggering. For Part 1: Back to the Beginning For Part 2: For Better or

This is my story of my marriage to an abuser. In this chapter, I learn about infidelity and set boundaries. But sometimes things change… For Part 1: Back to the Beginning For Part 2: For Better or For Worse For Part 3: Moving and More For Part 4: Going Downhill Continued.. We had separated in

This is my story of my marriage to an abuser. Warning: descriptions of violence and abuse may be triggering. In this chapter is the first time police got involved. For Part 1: Back to the Beginning For Part 2: For Better or Worse.. For Part 3: Moving and More Continued.. My oldest daughter had regular

This is Part 3 of my story of my marriage to an abuser. Warning: descriptions of violence and abuse may be triggering. For part 1: Back to the Beginning For part 2: For Better or for Worse Continued: Over the month of January, we had some heart-to-heart talks. I told him that we were very

For part 1: Back to the Beginning Continue on for part two of my story: I wondered many times if I should leave. I thought about where I would go, what I would take if I did leave, and how I would get there, without a vehicle, without money. And I felt so very alone

During my first separation in 2010, I began journalling my marriage to an abuser, and then how I left. I am reposting those journal posts — unedited, except to correct grammar and spelling, and without images. These are raw and unfiltered.  They are simply a description of what happened, from my perspective, at the time